Self-representation: a lesson in controlling the controllables

You are your biggest advocate. It’s a scary thought, but someone will always be judging everything you say and do. The good new, however, is this—you have complete control over yourself! No one can better represent you than you can, so take pride in yourself—if you don’t, than who will?

Here are some useful tips to take into consideration the next time you find yourself doubting your greatness.

First of all, dress to impress. Confidence comes easy when you look good. Whether you are interviewing for a job, meeting your girlfriend/boyfriend’s family, or simply picking up some groceries take pride in what you wear. Appearance is the easiest thing to judge.

Secondly, think before you speak. 7% of what people think of others is based off of what they say. Treat every conversation like it’s your last, this way you will chose your words wisely and with a purpose.

It’s not only about what you say, but it’s also about how you say it. Speak with energy and kindness. Nothing puts people off more than a harsh voice. You might be saying very important things, but people will tune out if your tone is too harsh.

Another important thing to remember is to be aware of your body. If you look uncomfortable than other people will become uncomfortable. Carry yourself with confidence; people will only notice your flaws if you draw attention too them, so don’t try to cover them up with an awkward pose.

One sure way of making a good impression is by becoming more personal with people. Address people by their first name. People like being singled out when they are being spoken to. It is also important to be an active listener. Don’t just listen to what a person is saying, but engage it the conversation. Ask them questions about what they are talking about. Focus in on them and make them feel important.

This last thing should go without being said, but be on time. Tardiness is annoying, and it makes the worst first impression. If you want people to respect you, than you have to respect their time and schedule. Every minute you are late is a minute they could be doing something better.

All of these things will help you market yourself a little better. It is almost impossible to please everyone, but confidence is key—as long as you are confident in yourself, than it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks.